Yesterday I published my 60th post in a row here. Now I’m less likely to abandon this blog. Studies can be made to show support for almost anything, and I don’t believe in one-size-fits all but the standard wisdom used to go that it takes 21 days to create a habit. Now “they” are saying 60 days.
Unexamined habits aren’t necessarily good for us. They can be useless, outmoded behaviors carried out automatically to give us a sense of numbness and comfort. Routines can help keep us from paying attention to what’s really going on and we can miss out on a lot of our lives that way. But sometimes when we have a goal that requires consistent effort, deliberately developing new habits instead of waiting until we feel like doing something is more effective.
When I get inspiring ideas and a really clear vision and make commitments to things, I know full well that soon I will simply feel like walking away. I’ll wonder what ever made me think this thing was worth doing. Sometimes I’ll actually forget to do something because of distractions or whatever.
Letting go of perfectionism helps and sometimes just doing something on a daily basis, flaws and all, provides that link of continuity. It’s all about whether something serves me or not. If it doesn’t serve me at all, it’s highly unlikely it will do anyone else any good either.
Developing grounding and good habits has served me well in times of crisis. That’s usually when it would be easy to let everything slide and quit taking care of myself. Eventually I’m aware that life will go on and soon I will enjoy some things again. That’s when I won’t want to have piles of laundry, disorganized financial records and be in trouble at the dentist because of sketchy habits. I make the deliberate choice of caring for my human life even though I wonder why I should bother.
This is on my mind today because difficult things are happening to people I know. One of my Aunts is in the last phase of Hospice care. It is so frigging hot here.
Sometimes we really need to be grown-ups when we’re adults. Adults show up and carry on and believe me, I know how very hard that can be. It can seem that what we do doesn’t matter at all. And in a way, that’s correct. It just matters that we make a choice to do something and then follow through.
Now I’ve posted daily for two months and I’m likely to continue doing so. Whether anyone reads this blog or likes it. Whether I feel like it or not. Until the day I decide to choose to do something else instead.